03 Aug Feeling Stuck in Repetitive Patterns of Behaviour?
How therapy and counselling helps overcome self-destructive patterns of behaviour
“If you do what you always did, you get what you always got,” say the AA fellowships.
Often we find ourselves repeatedly getting into difficult situations again and again and again. Why, we ask ourselves, do we never seem to learn from our mistakes?
Attachment theory tells us that from very early on in our lives we learn to organise our behaviour to trigger familiar emotional outcomes. When our early lives offer security and well-being, as adults, we go on to seek stability and elicit positive healthy responses from the people around out.
When our early lives are filled with confusion, trauma or disappointment, life can feel like an ever revolving door of upset and chaos. We find ourselves getting into repeated conflict, at work, in relationships and with family. We over eat, drink too much or engage in other self-destructive habits again and again and again. Why me?
To move beyond the “same old same old” takes understanding, compassion and a willingness to step outside of our stuff. It involves making the space to notice, observe and understand what we do, what made us who we are, and to develop a deeper self-awareness.
In my practice, I offer a safe, non-judgemental space where we can go on this journey of self discovery together.
To find out more, you can call me on 020 7300 7243, or click here to email me to schedule an appointment in a safe and confidential setting.